I was out for dinner with some friends a little while ago and one of them started talking about how he recently got back into swimming and that evolved into a chat about diet and exercise and wanting to get fit. I said that I was conscious about it and was starting to walk to and from work everyday and that I was on the hunt for a decent, reasonably priced gym. My friend looked at me and said “But you’re so tiny!”
Now, let’s be honest, ANY girl would take that as a massive compliment. It took all of me to hold back blurting out “You may think so but LOOK!” and then start jabbing and poking and making bits jiggle. Instead, I said “Thank you! But it’s not about weight for me. I just want to be in better shape so I can get out and do more things this summer – like surfing!” And that’s the truth.
The conversation then went to surfing, then how amazing the sushi we were eating was and then onto how ridiculous you look in a photo if you shake your head as fast as possible when the picture is snapped – aka “Shakey Face”. (Honestly, you will never look as bad as you do in one of those snaps!)
Anyhoo… it got me thinking about perceptions. I know I have a distorted perception of myself. I see myself as bigger than I am most of the time. Smaller than I am some of the time… like when I somehow convince myself I can borrow my 5’4″ 115 lb friend’s jeans. I know I see myself as larger than my boyfriend sees me. And, apparently, as larger than my friends see me. (I would never call myself “tiny”!) I’m working on getting my perception of myself to be a little more accurate and a little less harsh, but it’s going to take a little while.
Do you find you have a warped perception of yourself? What do you do to help bring a little reality back into your views?